Been thinking about this thing about ‘if the time is right’ or ‘wrong timing’ etc. I notice that the behaviour it drives most times is to wait for the right time or to declare resignedly that the time was not right when a supposedly right action doesn’t yield desired results.
What bugs me I guess is what we do while we are supposedly waiting for the right time? How will we know when the time is right? …ah and here is where my thoughts led me:
It’s not really about timing but about experience. Using a journey as an analogy, there is a distance to be travelled in order to complete that journey. If we take the destination as the outcome one desires and the act of making the journey as the action that needs to be done at the ‘right time’, then it sugggests that you’ll only get to your destination if you take the actions at the right time… But analogically this is not true,it might take you forever but as long as you travel, you’ll get there. What this analogy suggests is that as long as you experience the appropriate distance between where you are and where you want to be, you’ll end up there eventually. Timing merely determines when you get there depending on the route you take which inturn determines the experience you’ll have on the way.
If at any time you stop acting (moving) you’ll never get there. If you keep going round and round in circles with no consistent direction of motion, you’ll never get there. If you keep looking backwards you’ll slow yourself down.
Bottom line, it’s not about the right time, but the right experience. When the experience is complete you’ll have your desired outcome; you’ll be at your desired location.
If you want to get there faster then research well before you start the journey. Shortest route, traffic conditions, mode of travel, etc. This way you’ll not get lost, go round in circles or start looking back. You’ll also be better able to orientate yourself every step of the way. It doesn’t guarantee anything but is reduces the uncertainty.
There is a time for everything is not about waiting for the right time but about knowing where you are, where you want to go and what you need to do at ANY point in the journey, including this moment right now.
Maybe we should ease up on the focus on ‘right time’ and focus on how the experience we are currently having will get us to where we want to go and what we need to do right now.
Rather than wait for the right time, we could find out what time it is now. It’s worth noting that it’s not one action that will get you there but a lot of actions… it’s not about when to take a left turn but what turn to take now.. waiting at the junction will not change a right turn to a left turn no matter what time it is. But if you keep moving there will come a time when turning left is required.
It’s probably impossible to know the right time for a specific action unless one can see the future, but it’s possible to know what the time is right for now, and that comes from experience.